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[–]Wanderingthehalls 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I have known I'm probably asexual since I was 14-15.

Why the fuck is no-one telling teenagers that it's perfectly normal to have no experience of sexual desire at this age? Yes, some people have sexual feelings at this age but many don't until closer to adulthood. One of the girls in the comments is 20 and describes being sexually active for 5 years due to being pressured into having sex, before now realising they are grey-ace. No, you were pressured into sex before you were emotionally, and probably physically, ready and it has stunted your natural development of sexual desire. Take you time, deal with the fact that you had sex too early, learn to heal from the mixed up signals you've learned. Get to know your own body and what pleases you and the odds are you will. in time, learn who you are attracted to and experience normal sexual desire. What the actual fuck is wrong with our society that we are validating slower (than may be) average sexual development or sexual trauma as a sexuality and potentially permanently fucking up people's lives?