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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The urge to stray because of long term relationship and the urge to straybecause you're craving something which is biologically opposite to partner are veryfundamentally different. Not saying bi people are cheaters or anything like that. Just saying this craving of opposite sex, especially in long term relationships, makes the relationship more at risk of breaking the emotional bond. And that's a situation we've been hearing many times. Personality might make you more or less likely to cheat or be monogamous, but overall the urge for the opposite sex of your partner, isn't personality, is sexuality, and one don't really know how negatevely that's going to effect the relationship. That's why a monosexual offers better security for someone wanting to bond for life, all else being equal.

[–]RaspberryTea 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I still don't get HOW it's different. A person who has a strong preference for tiny women might fall in love and marry a tall one, which could lead to "craving" petite ladies later on; a woman who married an older man when she was in her teens or twenties might end up wondering what she missed out on. And there are countless stories of men who dump their wives of twenty years to go chasing a younger woman.

Stuff happens. It happens a lot. Betrayal sucks, but it's one of those things regardless of anyone's orientation.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

An height or hair color is a preferance, sexuality isn't a preferance, is a biological wiring. The woman there is giving the type of sex attributes the person needs, the height non being in a preferance is just a detail. It would be quite the difference biologically craving sex from genitalia and sex traits opposite to your partner. Again, not talking of betrayal, just saying that it significantly increases the chances of relationship bond being ruined, and we heard it tons of time, of story of bisexual breaking up cause they crave opposite sex too much. Even though, as I said, I'm not against dating bisexuals, there is no denial someone who is not biologically wired to need men offer more security of stability long term. That's a fact, not a phobia.

[–]RaspberryTea 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I guess we're at an impasse here since I still don't get it. Take care.