I appreciate you posting about this and respecting the clear role that homophobia has played in her life. Sometimes I see people on this forum bash her for seeming shallow, but it seems so obvious that there was a ton of negative pressure on her to not come out and it really damaged her career. How unfair is it that if we come out, it ruins our careers? Straight people can virtue signal right and left about how it's "okay" to come out now, but there are so many examples like this where it really did ruin the career and/or relationships of the person who came out.

It crushes me to see Ellen's example in particular, just because I have related to her for a long time, I'm GNC to a similar degree as she was after coming out (before identifying as transgender) and I thought it was so cool to see someone I could actually relate to in the media, I could never really relate to many of the other lesbian or otherwise LGB high-profile actors/politicians/famous people. Now her actions are sending the message that if you're LGB and GNC, you need to transition or else people won't accept you how you are. It's so sad.

Anyway. Thanks for the post.