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[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Already wrote my opinion on this article in my response to PatsyStone, but to summarize:

Unpopular opinion: I actually hate this article. It disturbs me that this parent is so interested in spinning their version of a story about this child that they don't even bother describing how their CHILD feels. Many people who want to transition have some pretty strong feelings about why they're doing so-- whether or not they actually have gender dysphoria or if it's just social pressure, a mix of other psychopathological symptoms, or what.

And this: Wtf? Who talks to their child like this? (Well, I can think of one person I know, but they're narcissistic as all hell, lol.)

But you’ve fallen into a funk. Anyone can see that. But computer games help. And there’s always trying to beat the speed record for that one game you’re kinda good at. And that one guy on reddit always has good tricks. And the people on that message board seem to get your humor.

The child already knows these things about himself... why would you repeat it like that... it's so goddamn weird.

Furthermore, by saying, "You're not trans-- just weird," this parent is othering their child, and I would argue, is even playing into the homophobia inherent in the slur "q*eer"-- it sends the message to the child that "There's something wrong with you." The allusion to ASD/aspergers is conveyed in a patronizing tone.

This writer doesn't seem to give a fuck about what scientifically-based intervention might help their suffering child. In fact, they don't even seem interested in listening to their child. This is just a self-absorbed (dare I even say narcissistic?), self-congratulatory monologue.

I'm sorry to be so negative, but-- we can do better than this.

(I do appreciate you sharing this, btw, OP! It was certainly fascinating to read.)