Indoctrination / DoublethinkThe irony - complaining because "online queer folk have decided lesbians can have sex with men for fun"

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[–]Mermer 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think we should be spreading the idea of being pressed about who sleeps with who. Why don't lesbians get to be bi-curious? I think many lesbians struggle with accepting being a lesbian because how it is forbidden for them to even find a man attractive. You can appreciate someone's attractiveness, hell even have a crush on them but never actually see them in that way realistically. And maybe you can even try it with a very special man for the pure sake of experimentation or fun without having to disgenuinely identify as bi. Idk, if you ask me, using men for sex without actually liking them or with having 0 intentions of anything real seems pretty gay to me. Just my opinion, pls don't attack me if you disagree.

Wow, ok, edit: call me crazy but I still don't think purely circumstantial, one in a million probably heavily power imbalanced sex with a man makes you bi if you don't seek relations with men on regular basis. Also, finding a man attractive ≠ being attracted to him especially if you don't normally find men attractive.

If these girls would use some more specific label like "bisexual homoromantic" you'd probably be rolling your eyes. Labels are societal and signal who you're interested in so I do not think it is fair to call yourself bi if you don't like men and you're not interested in them.

Edit 2: afterthoughts, if anyone even sees this. I'm not saying what those girls are doing is right. You really shouldn't be sleeping with people just because you're bored. But if that's your reasoning behind it I really wouldn't count it as attraction.

[–]7874 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If a lesbian tries out sex with a man (which is very common and often traumatic and the result of internalized homophobia) and doesn't like it, she's a lesbian. If she does like it, she's bisexual.

A "lesbian" who can be sexually aroused by males is bisexual.

The majority of established homosexuals have already been through a bi-curious phase, then tried desperately to convince themselves that they are at least bisexual, but to no avail. Your example is much more likely to occur with a straight person or a bisexual who happens to find more people of the opposite sex sexually attractive.

"Labels" aren't a "signal to society" they're words which have established definitions. A lesbian is a female homosexual, not a bi woman who only likes to date women. If "lesbians" are capable of attraction to men, what does that mean for homosexual rights? Our whole basis is that homosexuality is immutable. You're giving conversion-therapy advocates ammunition when you misuse language like that.