LGB ErasureWhere LGB fear to tread | Anon | The Critic Magazine — "The deepest irony of all, is what this nonsense has done to my relationship with transsexual people. "

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi.[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Seems like plenty if not most, judging by what people say when they peak. And of course some who do still identify as trans(sexual, usually).

I've thought about this as I watch a couple of friends who are trans and TRAs over time on social media. One of them has gotten very quiet about it, and instead of calling themselves trans now says they're nonbinary. I know they had some cosmetic surgeries in recent years for things like Adam's apple, etc., so I'm guessing there might have been top / bottom as well. That's got to be pretty weird. That is a relatively decent and presumably sane person, so I've wondered: How does one go from permanent body modification to become trans, to being nonbinary? How does that work? How does that feel?

The other one is still a loud, bitchy TRA who looks for victim opportunities regularly. Seems like that's the topic of most of her/his/their (I've given up tracking that one) posts: Some sort of misgendering or other terrible affront. But those don't get endless hugbox responses the way they used to.

A third trans friend I am pretty sure is regretting it. Looks sad in every photo. That one is a lot younger. Used to look happier and more proud.

(ETA: All of these became friends with me several years before they became trans. Would I befriend them now in the current climate? Probably the two who aren't professional victims, but not the one who is.)

I don't know if any of those visible attitude shifts relate to any awareness that TRAs are ruining things for every person just trying to figure themselves out, but it's hard not to assume. None of my trans friends are as open about it online as they used to be and that's several people. (None of whom except the aforementioned ones above ever seemed to be TRAs.)

[–]TransspeciesUnicornI sexually identify as a mythical sparkly equine 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Damn three of your friends came out as trans? You some kinda trans magnet? I only knew one girl from high school who came out as FtM later, and she was more of a friend of a friend than someone I was actually close to.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi.[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

At least three. I am probably forgetting someone and there are other trans friends. But I know a lot of people and live in a liberal area so it's not that surprising. I know many more enablers than I know trans people. There are plenty of people drinking the TRA Kool-Aid here.

One of the above ones came out as a lesbian a year or two before coming out to everyone as FTM. That one is only around 20 years old.

Off the top of my head I know at least a dozen trans people (i.e. use that term on themselves). Of those about 90% are transsexual. Of all of them I'd say probably two or three are pretty clearly AGP. Not sure about any of the others but some do just seem to be trying to figure themselves out. At least two are FTM and I am expecting one of those to eventually detransition.

I also know at least one trans widow.

And yeah, it's getting a bit stressful in the sense articulated in the linked article—while it's fine for people to feel safe exploring themselves, I now wonder, each time one "comes out" in some way about this, if they will be the abusive TRA I'll need to filter out swiftly. It sucks.

[–]iamonlyoneman 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I knew a girl who is a textbook case of ROGD. SIX of her classmates all turned up trans in one year. Coincident with the year a queer teacher was their common teacher. That teacher disappeared for the next school year but obviously quite some damage was done.