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Gay MenConversation I had with my boyfriend that started after a NB tiktok he sent to me. Opinions?

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[–]julesburm1891 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (2 children)

Okay, obviously I’m some internet stranger who doesn’t know you or your boyfriend. (And, additionally, doesn’t speak Spanish.)

Going off these texts though, it seems pretty clear he doesn’t respect you. Saying you need to evolve, asking you to say your evenly-presented point “without crying”, and calling you various versions of bigot are, for lack of a better term, dick moves. That’s not how you talk to someone you love. It sounds like he just expects you to blindly follow his opinion without clearly presenting his side or calmly listening to yours.

No one is ever going to 100% agree with his or her partner. (My partner and I have disagreements on TQ+ and regular old politics all the time.) You have to be respectful and not let the issues drive a wedge in your relationship if you really love him or her. These texts showed you doing your best to agree to disagree and your boyfriend doing his best to belittle and antagonize you.

[–]ppja1995[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (1 child)

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago* (0 children)