what upsets me the most about this is that it skews lesbian statistics, including domestic violence stats and mental health stats. We don't need these straight people fucking up stats about our minority group.

Completely agree. Sometimes I wonder whether there are any accurate statistics on lesbian women these days... Men are more likely to commit domestic violence than women, so I wouldn't be surprised if "lesbian rates of domestic violence" go shooting up in the next few years. Ugh.

It's hard enough as it is since so many bi women identify as lesbians (if they're dating women but are also attracted to men)

Yup, again because men are more likely to perpetrate domestic violence than women, and bisexual women are very likely to have a history of dating men.