This strikes me as such an alien reaction from the bridesmaid and all of these idiot commenters. I cannot imagine as a bridesmaid or any level of guest asking a bride to disinvite her father solely because of his feelings about gay people, whether or not I brought a woman as a wedding guest and I don’t know any gay person who would expect the same, let alone have this thought even cross our minds as a possibility. Let alone if it wasn’t even me, but my hypothetical child. What’s the child’s relation to these people? It’s common for non-related children or guests to not even be invited. How old are the child and the bridesmaid? If you are concerned about the well-being of your child, you can set reasonable precautions or have them not go if you think their emotional well-being is in danger. It sounds like the father offered to shut up and steer clear. I can’t imagine expecting or asking for more than that.

And how can this bridesmaid be so sure that no one else would be thrown off and “misgender” her child purposely or not because they see a tomboy not an actual boy? Does she expect every other guest to be screened for their beliefs to be approved ahead of time? What about the 80+ year olds who literally cannot even wrap their minds around the concept or transgenderism? Should they be screened for their thoughts about race relations, various religious groups, and immigration as well? And I say this as someone who didn’t invite one of her parents to her wedding for my own (non-ideological reasons). The narcissism is strong with this lady. I hope this child is not a victim of her mother’s Munchausen’s. In any case, this mother is setting up her child for a world of hurt by going to great lengths to prop up a delusion that cannot withstand the constant threat of reality.