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[–]soundsituationI myself was once a gay 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For me, verbalizing sexual thoughts (to people who aren't intimate partners) doesn't feel particularly important or satisfying. Like, I don't get anything more out of talking about it than I do just indulging in private fantasy. I wonder if this is in part a cultural difference; where are you from? I dated a Brazilian girl for a while and she and most of her family were more like you.

Or do you think it's a matter of finding the "right" friends?

Yeah, in your case I definitely think so. Straight/bi men are great for this if it's just matter of being able to speak about sex uninhibited but if you're looking for females specifically it sounds like you need more les/bi women in your life, or at very least some straight female friends who love talking about sex as much as you do.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! It's really great not feel judged even though you might not be like me. That's reassuring, so thank you. But yeah, I have to agree, I wished I had other les/bi women in my life, as a friends for once and not simply the women I date 🙃