LesbianKinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW

submitted by oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ from (self.LGBDropTheT)

I'm so fed up of repressing my sexuality. I feel like I had to grow up earlier than most because of knowing my sexual orientation young and didn't have much support at the time. So I feel like while most kids were thinking "oh, with whom am I going to have lunch with on saturday?", I would be thinking "when will I have another arguement with my mom?", "I won't ever have a 'normal' life", "I won't ever have a traditional family", "Will these friends accept me?", you get the point.

I don't know if this will sound pretty lame, but I'm used to suffer. To feel like an outcast, that no one understands me. I'm going to be pretty blunt - the thing I hate about myself the most is how much I think about sex and women. I'm fed up of and done with pretending I'm an angel and pure with my straight girl friends out of fear of making them uncomfortable but this is just exhausting. 10 years of constantly repressing your sexuality and controlling what you can and cannot say is exhausting and I'm so fed up. I was only able to express my sexuality with absolutely no fears with my prior best friend. Truth is sometimes I do have crushes on my straight friends, but I obviously won't tell them that. Truth is sometimes will even masturbate thinking about said crushes, but I obviously won't tell them that. Truth is I used to consume loads and loads of porn. Truth is sometimes I will see a woman's ass and will think about it all the freaking day and my brain will memorize that ass for months. Truth is I can't even stand cleavage on women because my brain will have a really hard time concentrating while she'll be talking to me. Truth is if I think "oh, that woman is really beautiful" what I'm thinking is "I want her on me right now". On top of that, I'm a pretty open person meaning I have no problems talking about anything whatsoever. But like, this is me, you know?

This is something I won't ever talk about with anyone. I feel like if I "loose myself" all the (straight) girls will just run away from me. And I'm so fed up of repressing everything when I look at women on a daily basis. I just don't know what to do, I'm just coming here in hopes that someone gives me some advice ... Do you think I'm exaggerating? Or do you think it's a matter of finding the "right" friends?

I truly don't know what you're thinking about me right now, but please be gentle with me as I said this isn't something I'm exactly proud of. Is this normal????? I also feel like women don't think as much about sex as me and this doesn't help. Thanks in advance.

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[–]reluctant_commenter 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

10 years of constantly repressing your sexuality and controlling what you can and cannot say is exhausting and I'm so fed up. I was only able to express my sexuality with absolutely no fears with my prior best friend.

Oh my god... I so relate. I am so, so careful to not talk about being attracted to women around my straight female friends. I grew up being told that lesbians are disgusting predators and shouldn't be allowed in locker rooms with straight women, so it's that much more of a topic that I walk on eggshells around. Last week I was with some friends hanging out and I made a casual joke about watching a TV show because a woman on it was hot, and one of my friends present who was a straight woman gave me this incredulous look like Wtf? and it just sent my headspace right back to my childhood homophobic bullies, lol. And now I really don't want to make any comments like that, even as a joke.

Truth is I can't even stand cleavage on women because my brain will have a really hard time concentrating while she'll be talking to me. Truth is if I think "oh, that woman is really beautiful" what I'm thinking is "I want her on me right now".

Lol I definitely struggle with that too sometimes. Luckily(?) for me, I don't get that too often (I suppose I'm closer to the end of what the TQ+ movement refers to as "demisexuality"...) but I still feel horrible when I do, and logically speaking I don't think I should have to feel horrible for involuntary thoughts and feelings (which don't seem to be hurting anyone, anyway), but.. I do.

I just don't know what to do, I'm just coming here in hopes that someone gives me some advice ... Do you think I'm exaggerating? Or do you think it's a matter of finding the "right" friends?

I don't know what to do either but once again, I am sitting here nodding along reading your post because I relate, lol. I am so glad you feel comfortable posting about this stuff, hahaha. Unlike you, I am not an open person in general, so I'm not sure if I would often voice my sexual attraction to women even if I didn't feel like I had to repress it. But I would love to not feel like I'm fucking walking on eggshells. At the same time, I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable...

This topic is exactly why I often relate more to straight men than to straight women. At least they seem to understand how I feel; although sometimes they say disgusting objectifying stuff that I disagree with because of my values, lol. (And I know very few lesbian women IRL; and the few I know, also seem to share this sexual repression or shame thing that you describe, so I don't talk about it with them, either.)

I truly don't know what you're thinking about me right now, but please be gentle with me as I said this isn't something I'm exactly proud of. Is this normal????? I also feel like women don't think as much about sex as me and this doesn't help.

Full honesty: I think you are completely fine, I don't think any different of you. <3 And, if a straight guy said the same things as you did, people would be totally fine with him having a sex drive and saying it's normal, so why shouldn't it be fine if a woman says it? At the same time, even though I seem to have a problem similar to yours (perhaps not equal in degree)-- I feel totally fine about you being that way but I feel horrible about myself being that way, hahaha. Double standards... I would also love to hear advice/thoughts from older LGB people.

edit: Can I just say: THIS kind of topic, is exactly why I am glad that LGBDroptheT needs to exist. Because I can't go say this in a LGBTQ+ subreddit and get relevant, helpful, or even supportive comments. People would say: "You are transphobic and have a genital fetish!" THIS is why we need to drop the T. Seriously.

I know there are not so many of us on this sub in our teens/early 20s but I swear, I don't know where else to talk about stuff like this and ask stuff like this, I think these are the kinds of conversations that LGB people in my generation are going to miss out on. I feel like I don't even have words to put to it sometimes... I almost feel like it's going to stunt the emotional and experiential growth of LGB people our age. People in my gen may be hitting milestones in their 30s that you older people hit when you were 15.

Also sorry this comment is so damn long, lol.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you so much for your comment! <3 I feel much relieved and not alone rn. I really think the fact that I don't have any lesbian or bi girl friends doesn't help and makes me feel like I'm alone on this when apparently I'm not! I also think about that I can much easily relate to straight men but not when they do disgusting too over the top comments. I'm constantly wondering "are women like this too?????" because I feel like straight women are just so much more discreet and so soft with words that I truly don't know. But I feel really happy that you do not think less of me and think it's fine. That s a relief! Because this is not something I can control, I can repress it or not, but my body will react anyway. I'm so sorry that your friends reacted the way they did when you expressed your sexuality and I truly hope you can find friends where you can be yourself and, like me, stop repressing it! I really appreciated your comment, so thank you for wasting a little bit of your time to telling me that its okay <3 I love you in a friendly way 🥺 no homo hahahaha, just kidding :)

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No problem!!! I'm really glad it helped!

I really think the fact that I don't have any lesbian or bi girl friends doesn't help and makes me feel like I'm alone on this when apparently I'm not!

I think that's the case! I think we're all just isolated from each other... 1) it's hard to find each other IRL and 2) it's really hard to talk about the issues we legitimately face, not just because some are personal but because the TQ movement has made the subject so touchy. I've talked a limited amount about experiences being LGB with a couple other lesbian/bisexual women but every time I do I almost feel like we're both being more reserved about it... I know I am super cautious about sharing my true opinions on LGB issues, because I've had people in the LGBTQ+ community get really angry at me before for saying the "wrong" stuff, lol.

because I feel like straight women are just so much more discreet and so soft with words that I truly don't know.

Yeah I kinda wonder if the socialization to "not seem like you're horny" works more effectively on some of them.

But I feel really happy that you do not think less of me and think it's fine. That s a relief! Because this is not something I can control, I can repress it or not, but my body will react anyway

Yup, exactly :)

I'm so sorry that your friends reacted the way they did when you expressed your sexuality and I truly hope you can find friends where you can be yourself and, like me, stop repressing it!

Thank you, I really appreciate it <3 aw no it wasn't a waste of time at all, I felt better after writing that! I love you in a friendly way too :) you made me crack up with the "no homo" comment LOL.

[–]soundsituationI myself was once a gay 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For me, verbalizing sexual thoughts (to people who aren't intimate partners) doesn't feel particularly important or satisfying. Like, I don't get anything more out of talking about it than I do just indulging in private fantasy. I wonder if this is in part a cultural difference; where are you from? I dated a Brazilian girl for a while and she and most of her family were more like you.

Or do you think it's a matter of finding the "right" friends?

Yeah, in your case I definitely think so. Straight/bi men are great for this if it's just matter of being able to speak about sex uninhibited but if you're looking for females specifically it sounds like you need more les/bi women in your life, or at very least some straight female friends who love talking about sex as much as you do.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! It's really great not feel judged even though you might not be like me. That's reassuring, so thank you. But yeah, I have to agree, I wished I had other les/bi women in my life, as a friends for once and not simply the women I date 🙃

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Tbh one of the many, many things I love about my wife is we are super honest with each other about the fact we're both horny bastards. We're very attracted to each other and monogamous but we also look at other women and talk about them together. Like if we see a hot woman in a movie or a concert or on the street, we are unfiltered in our thoughts to each other. If we are out and about we keep the lewder comments for later at home ;)

At home watching a show she'll be like "I would let her sit on my face" and I'll be like "same!" LOL.

We're pretty lewd talking with our small handful of lesbian friends and they're pretty lewd talking with us, and the couples with each other. I get the sense the repression you talk about is a common phenomenon, and once we are in relationships or close friendships we let the words and thoughts free. I think your repression is probably part of why your fantasies are so frequent possibly. It will get better!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Omg, this was so wholesome to read! :D You're living the dream, at least for me! You gave me hope lol and made me feel less alone! I constantly feel like I'm alone on this so hearing this means the world to me! So thank you. : )

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aw I'm so glad it helped and gave you hope! :) There is every reason to hope, and you are definitely not alone. Yes! I am absolutely a lucky woman. She is the best thing that ever happened to me

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Youre super lucky. You got to live the dream. A successful marriage with an horny bastard.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Omg... that sounds so amazing. I'm really happy for you guys. :) Hope someday I might be in a similar position, too.

[–]censorshipment 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (17 children)

I am the complete opposite of you, although we both grew up knowing our sexuality... I refused to hide my attraction to girls/women though. I was extremely defiant, confident and audacious... I didn't care if being a "bulldyke" made me an outcast. I would have rather been an outcast than to fit in with straight kids.

I am very blunt, as an adult (38 years old), about my attraction to women. Most of my friends are straight women with husbands and kids. I've known them for 20 years. They knew I was lusting for them and was aroused around them. They accepted my sexuality and attraction to them. They loved the attention anyway... and I don't give a fuck what anyone says, STRAIGHT WOMEN WANT GAY WOMEN'S ATTENTION. 😏

I'm very butch though... so I can get away with being hypermasculine and hypersexual. I can talk about my pussy being wet around other women... they expect me to be vulgar and bold like a man. I think about fucking women all the time... I ask women for pussy pics online... I have phone sex with women from around the world (I am addicted to women personally moaning for me 🥵💦) ... I do whatever the fuck I want to get what I want.

I am a proud fuckboi. My girlfriend and I argued about me being a fuckboi a couple weeks ago lol one woman isn't enough for me. 🤷

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

Thanks for your answer! I'm really glad you've been able to express yourself as you wish, that's truly awesome :D

I'm very butch though... so I can get away with being hypermasculine and hypersexual. I can talk about my pussy being wet around other women... they expect me to be vulgar and bold like a man.

Bingo. You hit the nail on the head. That's the thing. I feel like it's not socially "accepted" for me to be that open because I'm not a man nor a butch woman. I feel like I'm in this weird 'box' where I look like a 'regular' woman, mistaken for being straight, but I'm not. And I'm not what people think I am, you know? I don't know if this makes any sense, but I hope you can understand where I'm coming from.

[–]censorshipment 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (13 children)

You can be a feminine Romeo... you'll be able to fly under the radar. Get all of the pussy you can get!!!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

Hahaha yeah that would be great 🤣 but like, do you just say whatever you're thinking around straight women? I'm just so terrified of that I swear 😅 (straight women around here, if you're reading this I would also love to see your pov on this!! )

[–]censorshipment 5 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 6 fun -  (11 children)

Yes I do... I'm very uncensored/unfiltered, especially around straight women since they have no problem being uncensored around me when talking about their attraction to men and their love for dicks. 🤢🤮

Women and pussy do not get enough love... so any woman who loves women and pussy should be loudly vocal about it. It's okay to drool over a woman and to tell her you want to fuck her. Is it "inappropriate"? Sure, but it's not wrong to openly lust for someone. We have been trained to suppress our sexual desires and to desexualize ourselves, particularly as lesbians so we won't be seen as "predatory". Wanting to fuck another woman is not predatory... wanting to rape another woman is predatory though.

I want to fuck you. 🥵😂 I want to fuck any woman I'm thinking about!

I was soooo horny during the Olympics. My clit was constantly throbbing.

I am NEVER ASHAMED to be a horny ass lesbian.

Ahh I may be drunk right now lol it's my sister's birthday weekend. 😃

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

Haha it's honestly great to watch a horny women like me. I wish all women were this horny haha. Yeah, the Olympics had some great woman jeez 🤤 I love watching gymnastics lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

I love gymnastics because is full of short hot girls LMAO I got a crush on Simone Biles. And Vanessa Ferrari is so hot. Too bad they're all fucking hetero. Lesbians play soccer.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Omg I didn't know Vanessa and she is really hot. I have a crush on jade Carey 🤤 but for me I prefer them to be tall, I love tall women. I don't refuse short, but tall 🥵

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know, I watch her instagram all the time. She's my ideal: https://www.instagram.com/ferrarivany/?hl=en

Ahah I know your preferance, everyone has theirs. I prefer short simply because less height difference is more practical than more and to me compact is hotter, more attracted to girl more similar to me, although it doesn't matter much.And definitely would like to be closer to boobs too. But remember even a very short woman will tower over you when on top ;)

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I was so excited Vanessa finally got her medal in her 4th Olympics. She looked better than ever and really deserved it. I do agree she is very beautiful. There’s a cool video comparing the strength/flexibility metrics of her body to other female athletes.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Vanessa has had a lot of struggle, injuries and stuff. So her medal was like a big moral victory. She's very strong, other than beautiful. She and her boyfriend are very cute together. A relationship which has been going on for many years with him being her biggest fan. Basically ideal relationship

[–]censorshipment 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Gymnastics?? They don't look old enough! I prefer Track & Field women... Allyson Felix can get all of this tongue!! I love how deep her voice is... she doesn't sound like a little girl.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I just checked her out and she's hot as f*ck too lmao.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

My last crush was taller than average, muscular shoulder, looked older than her age, but her voice very high, a baby voice, that was adorable and so feminine. The thing I liked the most about her, after those shoulder and athletic body and eyes. High voice is more feminine and adorable to me, especially during moaning phase

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am planning to post a more substantive response to your OP because a lot of it resonates with me. But for now let me just say I am a huge fan of artistic gymnastics too. And Jade Carey’s gymnastics are very impressive and I’m happy to have been able to see her perform live. She is and seems way too young for me though lol. But I do low key have a crush on Ellie Black. I also didn’t truly appreciate her as a gymnast either until I saw her perform live. She’s very dynamic. So I went to follow her on Instagram and it’s basically a thirst trap for me.

Also, of course I was banned from r/gymnastics because I did not bow down to gender identity ideology and therefore was told that I should not be allowed to participate in the Gymternet. 🙄

Doesn’t matter how carefully you speak or if you stick to fact-based non-ideological language. Enough young women/girls have been trained to have a thoughtless knee-jerk reaction of just saying that your words are thinly veiled transphobia and therefore do not merit a substantive response, which saves them from having to exercise any brain power or critical thinking. And the mods are trained to insta-ban. I don’t think I even got an explanation of what I was banned for by the mods. But a user commented that they were trying to get me banned for transphobic dog whistles after I commented about homophobic censorship on a post about pride/LGBTQ “allyship.”

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'm very butch though... so I can get away with being hypermasculine and hypersexual. I can talk about my pussy being wet around other women... they expect me to be vulgar and bold like a man.

That's kind of fucked up that they expect that, lol. Isn't that kind of like that old homophobic stereotype "a lesbian is just a man in a woman's body"?

I am glad you you feel comfortable with your sexuality, that's awesome.

They accepted my sexuality and attraction to them. They loved the attention anyway... and I don't give a fuck what anyone says, STRAIGHT WOMEN WANT GAY WOMEN'S ATTENTION.

It sounds like they might enjoy the validation, haha.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not any lesbians. But she's clearly more similar to a dude than to the average woman lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (8 children)

I don't have that kinda of sex drive. Maybe my anxious and stressed personality lower my libido It's truth, women in general aren't so obsessed about sex or have such an high libido. You're a special horny case.I want a super horny girlfriend like you lol I like talking about sex with someone I lile, but not randomly. I don't feel the reason of having to talk randomly about your impulses, as I think these things are intimate and even men who are too open end up repulsing people with their lack of class. Also, when I like a woman I'm more like "I want to be on top of her right now" rather than imagining her on top of me, but it's because we prefer different positions lol You could find lesbian friends or male friends. Males got your libido, you could easily talk to them like that.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's truth, women in general aren't so obsessed about sex or have such an high libido. You're a special horny case.

Is that true of bisexual/lesbian women though? I'd be curious to see numbers on that, but I don't know of any good sources. I think Autostraddle did some sort of survey in the past, but 1) it's infected with TQ ideological bullshit and 2) it's probably got a response bias, skewed towards people who have a higher sex drive.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Why should lesbians have higher sex drive than hetero woman? Men got much more sex drive because of testosterone. We don't have more testosterone than normal. Although on dating app I have encoutered a good amount of women super horny and wild. I'm passionate myself in a relationship but I don't have that much urges and random thoughts on daily basis.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why should lesbians have higher sex drive than hetero woman?

Because I saw this survey a couple years ago: https://www.autostraddle.com/queer-women-masturbate-a-lot-and-other-self-pleasure-related-findings-from-our-lesbian-sex-survey-285414/

However, now I'm looking at it again, I would probably put like ten asterisks on it, because:

  • it seems to include transwomen, so if many of the survey respondents are male, then of course the results would show "higher libido among 'queer' women"

  • Like I said, sample recruitment bias-- people who have lower libido are probably less likely to stumble onto the site and take the quiz.

Actually, there is some limited evidence that lesbian/bisexual women have higher testosterone on average: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341361051_Sex_Hormone_Levels_in_Lesbian_Bisexual_and_Heterosexual_Women_Systematic_Review_and_Exploratory_Meta-Analysis

But the authors suggested that there is not enough evidence to conclude either way whether there are major hormone differences between L, B and straight women.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

You just need to relax and you'll get there ;)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I hope fucking not. I would find having your libido a torture.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

🤣🤣🤣 Yeah, it's a source of daily stress because of not being able to expressing it. It is what it is 😝

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Buy a vibrator? It can give you better orgasms than any humans.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't have any problems orgasming haha, I meant in social interactions😝

[–]Lessom 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Yeah I can totally relate. It's very funny looking back to when I was a teenager and how different my thoughts were compared to now in my mid twenties. Teenage me saw a pretty girl and was like I want to kiss her and go on fun dates. Now it's like she is hotttt and I wonder how she looks naked. Don't get me started on a nice cleavage because my eyes have failed me too many times atleast with a nice ass it's easier to not look lool. I always thought you are your horniest as a teenager but it was complete opposite for me.

My friendship group are predominantly straight women that I met at school/work and I never view them as anything other than sisters luckily. I feel awkward talking about women in a sexual way to them because I don't want to make it awkward so I keep my thoughts to myself but maybe it's in my head.

This is going to sound strange since I knew I was a lesbian from the age of 11 and have since then been with women but I still feel self conscious about being viewed a lesbian like you said almost like an outcast in most social settings. Sometimes even thinking why am I this way and not like the majority of women. I grew up in a religious and conservative home so I think that has contributed to it but I always thought by now those creeping thoughts would be gone.

To summarise I think about sex with women all the time and at the same time feel self conscious about it lol

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

From my experience women libido peak in their 40's. Women in their 40's seem super horny. I imagine myself in my 40's super horny, hopefully I will be married by now and being easily able to vent lol I do find having high libido a torture if you're single. Ok, you can find random hookups but that's sad in long term. I do search for emotional connection. A vibrator is better. And hopefully fiding someone to make love with.

[–]Lessom 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe need to find myself a woman in her 40s then lol. I get what you mean about needing the emotional connection as being intimate with someone is very personal to me and I couldn't do it with anyone.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I prefer older women. I 'm very attracted by wisdom and maturity and self-knowledge. I don't like immaturity or still don't understanding yourself. 40 eyars old are very attractive to me, but I kinda would prefer someone closer to my age for real relationship. 40 years old usually have children too.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Omg, it seems like there are actually a considerate portion of us who are in the same boat! It just goes to show how society still kind of "shames" women for being sexual like men and also how society has still a long way to go in order for homosexual women to feel 100% comfortable and enjoy their lives with no fears. It's funny that it was the opposite for you! I was indeed the horniest when I was a teenager, it was absolutely horrible! Now I'm still very horny, but as a teenager it was ridiculous! But everyone's different! May I ask you something: Do you also feel self conscious being sexual with les or bi women you feel attracted to? Or just feel self conscious around straight women?

[–]Lessom 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Good question. I guess both because I'd hate to make any woman feel uncomfortable or creeped out because as a woman I know that feeling. However, I feel this way more with straight women because lesbians/bi women would be more understanding if a woman was checking them out. I personally would be very flattered even if I wasn't interested in the woman in that way.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, you're similar to me. I feel way more uncomfortable with straight women, I feel like I can get this off my chest with lesbian or bi women even if I'm scared because they will always understand at least at some level whereas with straight women I'm absolutely terrified and won't do it.