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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Actual asexuality is extremely rare, but most people who identify as (and it is an identity for them) asexual are likely one of the following:

  • Inexperienced teens and young adults who haven't had a sexual relationship, or aren't as hypersexual as they think everyone else is (which most people aren't)

  • People who have experienced sexual trauma or sexual abuse, or have had poor experiences in sexual situations and therefore do not want to experience it again

  • Gay men and lesbians who aren't interested in the opposite sex but don't understand that they are actually sexually attracted to the same sex

  • People who want to continue having sex but need to spice up their identity without having to change a thing about themselves and their relationship, so they say they're asexuals who still have sex (also see: non-binary people who call themselves non-binary women and men)

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I'd add exclusive paraphilia to the list. People who find their sexual interests in things other than sex (in both senses: others that are male/female and the activity.) They correctly surmise how het/homo/bi works, realize they're not that, and go with the only other available option. People also like to deny that they have atypical sexuality for the obvious reasons.

Something like 20% of MTF trans are asexual-identified. These are probably the stronger cases of AGP.