DiscussionBi men in gay spaces – examples of constant homophobia, misinformation and undermining our definitions

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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Yeah, but still got more options. It's always better than being limited.

[–]RaspberryTea 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Honestly? Without getting too much into my ridiculous personal history, I've always wished I was a lesbian so that dead-end "option" wasn't there, and I've decided to stop dating men since the odds of finding one who's truly suitable for me are close to nonexistent.

I guess you could say your option is my unwanted confusion. The grass really does look greener and all that.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That's truth, we always want what we don't have. But full homosexuality is really very limiting. You can choose, while I can't. That's the difference. Also, maybe for someone with female preferance, a more feminine bisexual man is a good match.

[–]RaspberryTea 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It could be for someone else, but I like women too much. Truthfully, having sex with men (even though I enjoyed it) is what made me realize I'm more attracted to the fantasy of men than I am to the real thing. Once the mystery was gone, so was most of my interest. Which... definitely didn't happen with women. So for me, anyway, it's a choice between focusing on what I actually want and chasing a mirage.

I'm not saying this to downplay your frustrations; I get it. From the other side of the window, that probably does look better, much like fewer years wasted and a definite place in the community looks pretty good from mine.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

stats play against you when you're homosexual, that's all. And since dating is a number game, it's just significantly more difficult. I mean, it's difficult with hetero dating too, so the difficulty of sexual minority is just more.

[–]throwaway999 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You don't have to be a lesbian to only date women.

[–]RaspberryTea 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Oh, yes, I realize that now. It just took me a stupidly long time to figure it out. 😅