That's truth. I wonder why is havign such bigger effect on homosexual females.

I've been wondering this too (in horror and often despair); my best guess is that lesbians are under intensive attack from two different directions-- based not only on their sexuality, but on their femaleness.

In the latter case, I think it's about the relentless, cartoonishly-extreme gendering of childhood we've seen over the last few decades, as demonstrated in Peggy Ornstein's 2011 book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches From the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture. Kids have been growing up with a monolithic pink-is-for-girls/blue-is-for-boys worldview (driven by corporations/marketing), and because the female gender-role is much more elaborate and "showy", I think that this has hit girls especially hard. Crucially, it also involves heavy (and early) sexualization of girls, and in a very specific way: centering on male attention/approval.

So what girls-- including lesbians-- are learning is that femaleness = hyper-"femininity" and a sexuality that revolves around guys. Therefore, if you can't relate to either of these things... you must not be female at all.

I think there's also the fact that the most visible "lesbians" these days... ARE men: "transbians" :( Which probably just serves to reinforce the "lesbian = male" message that girls are already getting.

Does this analysis ring true for anyone else? Lesbians in particular?