BisexualIs the B in LGBTQ Being Erased? (PSYCHOLOGY TODAY article)

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[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I live in a pretty liberal area, and among my friends and acquaintances, when someone says "gay" they mean "all LGBTQ+" or sometimes "LGB" or sometimes even "anything involving the faintest amount of same-sex attraction." A couple times I've suggested that maybe glossing over bisexuals as just "gay" is a little reductive, and contributes to misunderstanding/erasure. So far I've just gotten scoffed at, lol.

I hear people say a ton, "sort-of gay" or "very gay" as if being gay were something a person could have in varying quantities. I assume most people who say that are just referring to same-sex attraction rather than homosexuality, but it really sends a mixed message about what bisexuality is. No wonder there is erasure. And who is harmed by this? Bisexual and gay (homosexual) people alike...

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hear people say a ton, "sort-of gay" or "very gay" as if being gay were something a person could have in varying quantities.

I hate when they do that... it makes us look like we are all pansexual. I don't want an opposite sex experience, if somone likes them even occasionally then your not homosexual.

I assume most people who say that are just referring to same-sex attraction rather than homosexuality, but it really sends a mixed message about what bisexuality is.

That's why I tell Bi people who don't wanna infringe on the lgb community because they are in opposite sex relationships that for the sake of their own identities they need to be "out" as bi.