LGB ErasureRemember, "lesbian" is just a porn category... - Coca-Cola criticised for banning the word ‘lesbian’ on customisable Pride bottles

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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Has any self-proclaimed “LGBTQ” or “LGBT” org ever made an issue out of the pornification and misappropriation of the word “lesbian?” Or how the word gets auto-treated as a porn reference by the major players in Big Tech such as YouTube and its owner Google? Why is it that when I search for “lesbian” and ”[insert mundane search terms that a lesbian might search for],” the results are always porn on Google? Any lesbian who is merely looking for practical information on sex and safe sex will just get porn and at best guides promoted by Google search results that talk about penises in “lesbian sex.”

We could write a laundry list of the practical info that has to deal with homosexual female sex that is either missing entirely despite the vast expanse of the Internet or hidden behind porn and the agendas of fetishistic men.

Why are we supposed to be OK with this? Why are most lesbian and bisexual women silent about this when the chances any of us hasn’t noticed is slim. Whenever I raise this to other gay women, there appears to be a lightbulb that goes off in their head. LGBT(Q) orgs care not the fuck at all and give us crumbs.

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Has any self-proclaimed “LGBTQ” or “LGBT” org ever made an issue out of the pornification and misappropriation of the word “lesbian?”

Not as far as I'm aware. I just made a similar comment to someone else in this thread about it, but I'd imagine that most MtFs who say they are "lesbian" probably don't see it as misappropriation at all since so many were influenced to identify as "trans lesbians" specifically because of porn. I would bet many don't even feel guilty, they don't even realize anything is being misappropriated.

We could write a laundry list of the practical info that has to deal with homosexual female sex that is either missing entirely despite the vast expanse of the Internet or hidden behind porn and the agendas of fetishistic men.

Yep. It sucks. I was actually reading a couple of really old (9-10 years old) threads on r/actuallesbians, and amazingly, even back then people were trying to police language heavily, centered around transwomen's needs. But there were still a few threads about actual gay sex between women. I felt a little dumb for getting so excited to find even that little, but then, where else would I find it? Certainly not on social media "LGBT" communities, they're all T-dominated.

Whenever I raise this to other gay women, there appears to be a lightbulb that goes off in their head. LGBT(Q) orgs care not the fuck at all and give us crumbs.

Honestly I did not even think the world COULD be any different. I still struggle to visualize how it could be different. I was so floored to find those reddit threads I mentioned, for example. It almost felt a little bewildering.

I kind of wish we had more threads like that on this sub. Or on s/LGB once it finally gets running, I hope. I always feel a little awkward about making posts specific to bisexual women and lesbians on this sub, just because it's all LGB and I know a lot of the men won't be interested, but s/lesbians and s/bisexuals are both really dead, and I'm burnt out on the former, anyway.