(which could be the subject of its own post)

I would be interested to hear!

There was more discussion of dysphoria around their female genitalia and discussion of not wanting to involve it in sexual activity than there was affirmative discussion of how they like to have sex.

Checks out, given that men (male people) are a lot more likely to have been given knowledge about how to have positive experiences during sex than women.

So the “stick goes in hole” and “drawer full of dicks” pressure propaganda is unsurprisingly by and largely hypothetical in the FtM space based on my unscientific survey based on basic search terms you would expect to find in posts about sexual activity.

That just makes a lot of sense, because if we think about the numbers... (this may seem obvious but I'll break it down anyway)

• A far large number of girls/women seem to be transitioning than boys/men, currently

• I would guess that, all else held equal, a girl/woman is a lot more likely to transition for non-paraphilic reasons than a boy/man is. E.g. a girl struggling with puberty/sexual assault history vs. a boy struggling with puberty/sexual assault history.

• Assuming that there are relatively equal numbers of paraphilic girl/woman transitioners as there are paraphilic boy/man transitioners, then the non-paraphilic transitioners will make up a much larger proportion of the FtM community relative to those in the MtF community.

So the conversations you see in FtM communities would be primarily driven by a different sub-demographic of transitioners, than the ones in MtF communities. There are certainly some straight boys who transition who aren't doing it for paraphilic reasons. For example, I saw a great article a while ago about a boy on the spectrum who was pressured to transition in part because he hated all the bullying his male peers were doing, and was told, "you're actually a girl if you don't like bullying/roughhousing."

Also I agree with your edit. I'm not sure if I could quite make a post about this that'd fit in the sub posting rules, but I might try at some point.