I dunno dude, based on the history I'm aware of and my personal experiences, gay men are pretty happy to use our labor and treat us like accessories in their lives, just like everybody else. Your argument seems to be centered on how being gay is more important to our experience than being female, but you take that as a given and don't question your premise at all. Yes, marriage and legal rights to medical care for your partner and being treated as legal next of kin is very, very important. So is being able to have a bank account and a job and a life without a male cosigner. And I say this as a person who recently got a pep talk from my male boss (who doesn't know I'm gay because his mind would explode) about how brave I am for being a "single female". Point is, you assume we have more in common with you than with straight women, but you don't seem to have examined that belief at all. Please explain in detail why you think homophobia should outweigh sexism for us. Please explain in detail why you think my partnership should be more important to me than my legal right to existing as an independent human being in my own right.