Definitely a hero. I guess extraordinary children need extraordinary families. In countries where gay couples can adopt, very often, orphans with conditions like Down syndrome or autism get adopted by same sex couples. In fact, the first children adopted by same sex couples in most countries have these conditions. Now, I don’t think I can raise a child at all, with or without a disability, because I’m disabled myself. But who knows? I definitely wouldn’t do it on my own.

The power imbalance you’ve brought up is a strong argument against surrogacy and IVF. I was talking to my mother about homosexuals raising children and she supports adoption, IVF and surrogacy being legal. However, she understands why I’ve ruled out surrogacy because she sees that only one of the dads would be the biological father. And the procedure is expensive, so it’s rare that one dad would be the genetic father of one child, and the other dad would be the genetic father of the other child. Favourites will still be picked. Some gay couples mix in their sperm and choose not to find out which one of them is the father, but that’s just lame and pointless, because eventually it will be found out without a DNA test because of the looks of the men and the child. And that’s before we get into how the surrogacy affects the child, the surrogate mother or the surrogate mother's family.

Maybe I could see myself raising another man's kids. If, and only if, I married/registered a partnership with a single, divorced or widowed father, or I adopted an orphan. Or I assumed guardianship over a niece or nephew, though hopefully that will never need to happen. Otherwise, no.