It's not easy to answer. We're all here partially because we're defending our right to have an "exclusive" dating pool. It's one of our key criticisms of TRA ideology. One might think that consequently, we should defend any form of discriminatory dating practice. I tend to agree with that. Consent is the most important aspect of our sexual self-determination. No form of pressure is "valid", not even morality/ethics.

However... homosexuality is our sexual orientation. Not liking a "race" (sexually), is not. It's a preference if anything. And I think it's different from superficial preferences like hair color, social status, weight etc., because we're talking about a concept rather than a simple visual trait. Not all asian people look/behave/are the same, nor do black people or white people. So how can one exclude them collectively, without seeing them through the (americanized) lense of "race", with stereotypes and biases in mind? I mean, preferring dark skin over white skin or vice versa is one thing to say, but it's different if you say you " prefer black people over white people". You know what I mean? How you say it and how you means it is important. And even if we should be absolutely free to pick and choose and not feel bad about it, it's not asked too much to be considerate. That's all.

A different question: Can your preference be racist and not wrong at the same time? Why one thing OR the other?

One thing is for sure though: trans exclusion and race based exclusion are not the same thing, even if TRAs try to paint it that way to make a moral argument.