I just feel like the “last butch standing” at times, particularly when it comes to my age group and it’s so isolating. And there’s no support anywhere. I sometimes even think about becoming a member of that LGBT group again, so that I could at least be an example of a lesbian who grew confidence in her masculinity to the younger lesbians - something I never had.

This breaks my fucking heart, man. I’m sorry you had to experience that absolute twit of a mother, and all this garbage from the trans community. I think they way they have attacked and eroded the lesbian community is the absolute worst. I find it infuriating beyond words when I hear people who a supposedly our allies and part of our community telling lesbians to “examine their preferences” and to accept dick. It’s nothing but repackaged homophobia full of straight male aggression. Lesbians deserve their own safe, exclusive spaces.

This idea that girls and women who fail to conform to rigid gender roles are men is so fucking regressive and it shocks me that any intelligent person can’t see that nonsense for what it is. I was a “tomboy” growing up and I get angry when I think about how trans activists and “woke” parents would have tried to convince me I was a boy. Same goes for the non-binary label. What ever happened to celebrating butch lesbians and women who rejected these misogynistic standards of beauty and behavior? When these women are labeled as “non-women” or men, our community of women becomes less and less diverse. Women are not defined by how we conform to femininity. Playing with dolls, wearing pink, having long hair, being submissive and quiet, NONE of that makes you a woman. Our biology does.

I worry so much for the younger generation of LGB youth. I’m SO glad there are women like you who are out there, proud of who you are, and showing young lesbians that there is nothing wrong with being butch or being gay! Butch lesbians will save us.