RantA couple of years ago a mother “violently misgendered” me in order to not let her daughter think for one second that lesbians exist and by now she would be hailed as progressive. A sort of long rant from a butch lesbian.

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[–]germinare 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I’m really sorry that happened to you. And you’re right to observe the tight connection between transing butches and homophobia. Transing is actually used as conversion therapy in Iran, and other highly homophobic places. But it’s snuck into our society inside the Trojan horse of “gender diversity”...

I think being openly GC in LGBT spaces right now is a very brave thing, and if you’ve got the spine for it, more fucking power to you.

But I also think the LGBT has no future. As long as we continue to let gender ideology into gay spaces, the homophobia and conversion therapy will continue. I think the only way forward for us is to eject genderism completely and move forward solely as people who are same-sex attracted. I’m throwing my time and effort behind the LGB Alliance, personally.

[–]howdidthishappen 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

But I also think the LGBT has no future.

Yeah I’m stuck in a loop regarding that. Constantly thinking about how I could theoretically “better” it and how it’s just hopeless after all. I watched four (!) gnc lesbians transition over the past years in this small space, including the one I was seriously holding out for, after kind of peaking ,to not make that decision and it just feels hopeless at times.

And I’m seriously thinking about LGBAlliance (they have their own org in my country by now), but I constantly feel like I’d loose so much by admitting that I agree and by supporting them. I would have seriously never guessed that I’d be in such a conundrum over my sexuality and be so pressured into stating what it is (and what it is explicitly not aka the inclusion of “girl- dick”) and be so shamed for it, more than a decade after coming out, while simultaneously feeling pressure to identify as a man.

Edit: sorry, some typos and adding something to the end passage

[–]germinare 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The way I see it is this: there’s a high risk you’ll lose things whether you support LGB Alliance, or whether you’re gender critical within the LGBT. Both are “cancelable” offenses.

But the LGB Alliance and similar movements have the potential to reclaim same-sex attracted rights, whereas the LGBT does not in my eyes — it is poisoned by transing to such an extent that there’s no saving it. Transing and gay rights cannot co-exist.

So if I’m gonna get canceled either way, I might as well do it for the cause that I think could potentially make things better, you know?

Anyway, that’s my thinking on it. But it’s fucking horrible that we’re being made to make these choices. It shouldn’t be controversial for you to exercise your sexual consent, or to just have a sexual orientation at all.

Never be ashamed of who you are. Your body does not exist as a means to an ends for men.

We’re in this together, in this terrible era of history, for whatever cold comfort that may be.