50 years after Stonewall we are now fighting bisexual people as well as heterosexuals for our right to same-sex attraction

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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Haha yes! Team chopped liver forever! I'm so glad to be repulsive to trans people! It's just so amazing how psychological their fetish is. All it takes is one label between then being turned on by you and you being invisible to them.

But I'd like to hear your POV about the Gay BFF thing. Sometimes I feel like I'm trapped in an echo-chamber in my own head and it's good to compare notes with other people who've noticed the same things.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, I haven't observed it in the wild in some time but my impression was always that it was kind of a schoolgirl crush / groupie thing. In other words the women doing that aren't all that mature anyway. So they're reacting to certain traits of certain gay men as if they just made a new BFF, but also doing some cognitive dissonance by ignoring whatever the fact that he's a dude is stirring up in them. It seemed childish to me.

I mean there's nothing wrong with finding someone attractive but do remember they're a human being and don't be an ass. Same reason you should leave celebrities alone when you see them walking down the street. Don't intrude.

As for bisexual men being better lovers, I can only say: I've had three, and they are decidedly better lovers than straight men in my experience, statistically-insignificant though it might be. I would pick a bisexual man over a straight man any day, all other things being equal. Never occurred to me to see them as "tainted" any more than I would be, by sleeping with a man. I mean, let's not be hypocritical, here. (Straight women who think bisexual men are "tainted" don't see the hypocrisy, apparently.)

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Haha same! If I had to end up with a man, I would much prefer it to be a bisexual man. (And the same, with women.) It's sad that we bisexuals never had a culture where we had bi-only spaces where bi people dating other bi people was normalized.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would totally go for that. I sort of by-default ended up in a community that has a lot of bisexual people in it, and at least until woke TRA nonsense started to infiltrate (more among the straight people), and even though I haven't been interested in dating them for the most part (because gosh, we're just as selective as most other people, imagine), I've been much happier, because that whole topic is just out of the way. Nobody cares, nobody is uptight, nobody is fighting for some sort of turf. It's lovely. And the rest don't care that we're bisexual. So it's just like your hair color—no big deal. It's just more relaxed, in some unmistakable, fundamental way, as a social group.

And I agree about bisexual women. Bisexual people—and I feel like I've known enough (dozens at least, and I've known more L and G folks) to say something credible about this—all seem more relaxed. There's no better word. It's easier to be around them. Nobody's insecure or suspicious about anything. We can just be people. There's no maneuvering. Or judging people because of who they've slept with. It's not a topic anyone cares about. So yeah, I'd move to Bi Island in a hot second. As long as we're talking mature, healthy, sane, adult bisexual people like the ones I personally know.