"intergenerational cultural dissonance".

I relate to this so much. Also an ex-Muslim (won't say which country for safety reasons.) It's like our parents are in a time-warp. My mother beat the crap out of me and called me a whore for wishing to wear nail polish at age 13. When we went back to the old country over the summer, EVERY FUCKING GIRL age 5 and up was wearing a rainbow of nail polish, red, blue, green, any color you can think of. All these little, pre-pubescent girls. I was like "Wow, look at all the whores" (like, legit, it's been a million years and I'm still bitter about this) and she tried to be like "Well, they are low class." Please. WE are the low class ones.

The people in (home country) were sooo much more modern and open-minded about stuff in comparison to my mother. She was like a cave-woman in comparison. Everyone was so surprised because we are "from America" they were expecting us to be modern, and cool, and American, not like super-strict and super-modest and my mother being super-judgmental and angry and saying NO! to everything.

Anyway, I don't mean to dump my baggage on to you. I've been no-contact for a long time and it's all good now.