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[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 44 insightful - 6 fun44 insightful - 5 fun45 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

There seems to be a bifurcation of the notion of sexuality into 'vanilla, straight sexuality' and 'LGBT+'. Anything that is not heterosexual, PIV, missionary-with-the-lights-off sex is 'queer' and therefore automatically part of 'LGBTQ+' and, of course, lumped in with all of us. Did you use handcuffs in the bedroom once? Congratulations, you're 'queer'! Did you kiss a girl wearing cherry chapstick in college? Great, you're 'queer' too! Did you choose a female avatar in a video game that one time? Well I've got exciting news for you, bucko.

Similarly, there's an atomisation of this 'LGBTQI+' sexuality into ever-finer distinctions and subcategories. Do you enjoy casual sex outside the context of a relationship? You're actually an 'aromantic', and you're a VALID part of 'LGBTQIA+', here's your flag. Are you actually just kind of a slut? You're 'polyamorous', and you're a valid part of 'LGBTQIAP+'.

It's this exact kind of shit that rehabilitates the old idea that people who are homosexual are actually deviants and fetishists.

This is disgusting and it must be stopped.

[–]oyasuminasai50 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

It's really frustrating that we seem to be the only minority not allowed to set any parameters around who's allowed to be part of the community.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 27 insightful - 4 fun27 insightful - 3 fun28 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Normalise gatekeeping.

[–]oyasuminasai50 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right? No one accused black people of gatekeeping when they told Rachel Dolezal to fuck off. Yet now we have to pretend that straight people who don't have romantic/sexual attraction or who want to have 3 fuck buddies at once are basically in the same boat as gays and lesbians.