I personally think the idea of "they're all homophobic men" is oversimplification.

They definitely don't respect gay people enough to leave them alone and have their spaces, but I think the "fetishization of lesbians/womanhood" is closer to the truth than "they hate lesbians". The problem is to prove their secretly homophobic requires so much in depth conversation and unpacking to actually make that point because TRAs are always going to puppet empty pro-LGB talking points. However, the fetish angle is way easier to prove because these people always prop up like stereotypes of woman as their goal. You're never going to get a TRA to slip up on the "homophobic" angle but you will most likely get them to slip up on the "it's a fetish" angle.