You accused my mom of abuse. Although I do believe she's a narcissist, I believe she had to be narcissistic as a black woman. Do you know what was happening in the 80s and 90s when Reagan/Bush were the presidents? Black families were being torn apart by white supremacists (both conservatives and liberals)... even Clinton contributed to destroying black families. So my mom put us (females) first by any means necessary in order to make sure we wouldn't be a single-parent black household on welfare. Don't judge my mother for making sure my dad didn't misuse his income (my dad smoked weed... my mom didn't want him to smoke crack). Black men are irresponsible unless a woman is controlling them.