Thoughts on the Term "Marriage Equality"

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[–]8bitgay 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For one thing, "same-sex marriage" is less ambiguous that "marriage equality". Forty or fifty years ago, "marriage equality" would probably be taken to mean the legalization of interracial marriages. In another decade or two, it will probably be taken to mean the legalization of polygamous marriages.

Totally agree with that.

But apart from this point, yeah, it's same sex marriage. Sorry to burst TRAs' bubbles, but a transman was always able to marry a cis man. In fact I know of situations like this, of transmen who married their cis partners before same sex marriage was available in their countries.

The issues gay men have with legal rights and such was always because we are in relationships with the same sex. The same issues simply don't apply if your partner is opposite sex but identifies as same gender, non-binary, etc. For the law they're still opposite sex, and it's still a socially accepted straight relationship. Even for outside viewers, your transman partner can just present in a more feminine way to avoid certain situations.

[–]hermiona52 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh yeah. A few weeks ago (or months? time flew fast in 2020) there was a news that a first lesbian couple married in Poland.

And I was like "How?". We don't even have a right for civil partnerships, let alone a right to marry. So I instantly thought that someone trans was involved. And sure it was, a marriage between a male and female.

They celebrated it as some kind of progressive win for lesbians, when actual lesbians like me won't be able to marry for a next few years or more likely decades. I was and still am fucking outraged at this.

They don't get to take from us those important milestones.