Yeah, this is the problem I assumed lesbians would face. Feminists, similarly to the LGBTQ+ community telling you to "Be yourself", would give you the illusion of choice and if you chose the wrong one they might think you're a traitor. They might think you're lying to yourself or have Stockholm syndrome if you still chose to be a feminine woman.

I really don't understand why such phenomenon happen with activist groups, they say they give you freedom yet they become very authoritative when they feel like you chose wrongly. Such insane gate-keeping I guess is just what happens when there's no "central" point in activism, controlling narcissist jump into the bandwagon of Good Intentions to abuse it as an excuse to police others. :(