Is Asexuality a sexuality or not?

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[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"many people are confusing emotional bonding increasing sexual attraction and zero sexual attraction until some sort of emotional bond"

When I look at people I can see beauty in the same way a heterosexual person can see the beauty of people who share their same sex but with no sexual attraction. Yes I can form a sexual attraction after I form a deep emotional relationship with someone. Key word being deep. Not just a we got to know each others favorite movies, foods, and music; now we have sex.

Like I said too many people confuse the two and think "Whelp I don't like one night stands, I'm demi!" I've probably met around forty or so people who claimed to be demisexual like myself, yet only one seemed to actually fit the bill. It's a big problem with the plus part of the LGBT+ with this whole super-acceptance-your-sexuality-is-valid it prevents people from doing the soul searching/therapy/self reflection needed to help them deal with many of the sexualities masquerading as demisexuality; normally internalized homophobia.

[–]hyunnahh 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

no, the problem with the + side of the "LGBT+" is that they're mostly all bullshit labels made up by tumblr users that makes close to, if not, zero sense, demisexual being one of them.

the point of sexuality and sexual orientation labels is to bring across which sex you're attracted to, thereby distinguishing your dating pool. this is consistently seen with homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual and even asexual and the original definition of pansexual. whereas "demisexuality" is an outlier. there's nothing strange or unusual or "queer" about wanting an emotional bond, in fact it's quite natural. many non-demisexuals requires a strong emotional bond with someone before feeling sexual attraction as well. but they aren't demisexual, because demisexuality in and of itself, doesn't make sense and isn't even exclusive to the label.