1. I hate them. "Femme", now being also counterpart of "masc", is sexist and feeds the trans narrative. "Butch" is almost meaningless now as it's increasingly used to refer to women who dress conforming and sensible or like PeeWee Herman. No! A woman is "butch" if and only if she dresses and grooms like the average man and by that stands out from other women. Sensible women are not butch because they don't stand out. Women who dress tacky like PeeWee Herman aren't butch because a man wouldn't be caught dead wearing that. (a) and (b): no and no.

2. No.

3. I'm a Radical feminist, but I'm not particularly welcome among them in my country. They're much younger, very socially liberal, badly educated and it shows, into pop culture, hypocritical about slurs, and adhere to the doctrine of the original sin of internalized sexism. Look, if you didn't grow up with porn ads on copybooks in middle school, you have no place to armchair-psychoanalyze my hygiene routine, so shut your cinnamon pieholes. There's also a civil e-war going between liberal lesbians and radical feminist "political lesbians" (female separatists).

4. Child adoption, pregnancy, childbirth.

5. (a) Not as part of the acronym, although gay bros put their male privilege to good use defending same-sex attraction. (b) Drop everything after the B. (c) Probably a good idea if/when astroturfed representatives of "the G" adopt reproductive slavery as a campaign plank.

6. TRAs are sex offenders and belong in prison. "Transbians" should be recognized as homophobic hate speech and have commensurate consequences.

7. There are very few places where lesbians are welcome online. In real life, I mostly get crap for being female (e.g. male "colleagues" don't greet me, because most men's communities adhere to the rules of prison hierarchy and greeting a woman makes them "prison bottoms").

8. Queer is a slur. Dyke and lesbo are self-deprecatory and should stay so. Homosexual is fine. Lesbian is perfect but shouldn't be appropriated by people who aren't in fact lesbians. Gay is for men. "Same-sex attracted" sounds awkward. "TERF" of course is a slur. (I sometimes use "the terves", "us terves" and the adjective "terven" ironically, talking about the gender-critical community with non-members, but never about an individual person or to describe the belief in the permanence of sex, which is just common sense).

9. The labrys is the better flag by far because it distances lesbians from the alphabet soup variety stripes.

10. Sex toys, veganism, not wanting children, body hair, anti-science (why on earth? aren't we "supposed" to be mannish?), unhealthy lifestyle (overweight, BO, smoking, alcohol), sparklypoo in the media. Short hair as a lesbian stereotype is sexist toward women in general.

10a. I have short hair because I'd look ugly otherwise, and I wear plaid overshirts with t-shirts because of the 90s cool factor. (I actually want to learn sewing and start making and wearing skirts and blouses.)