You are right that most men don't know about this issue and that is also part of where the frustration lies. Most men have absolutely no incentive to find out how women are doing. They honestly do not give a fuck.

Most men have no clue of the amount of sexual harassment a woman experiences every day of her life starting at age 12 or younger and a lot of them think women are just scared because of scary stories on the news. It's only when you sit one down with 5 women around him and all tell their stories that they suddenly become pale as paper and suddenly get why we take a taxi for 10 minute walk at night or why none of us goes running after dark.

Now with the GC issues, women sports is a good example. Politicians and organisations and companies are mostly run by men. None of them asked women, none of them, if women thought it would be ok for transwoman to compete in championships. No decent research was done. Men asked lgbtq organisations run by men if transwoman (more men) should be in womens sports. And when this hits the news, it's mostly woman who speak up and a lot of men that stay quiet.

There are a lot more examples like this, but if you really understand what is happening here, it should be absolutely no surprise as to why women are so pissed off at men in general.

If anything 2020 just showed those who pay attention, how little the average man cares about women and how disposable our safeties and rights are.

On top of that the most vocal trans rights activists seem to be bearded men and transbians to the point its just became a meme.

It's hard for a lot of women to not take it personally. I struggle sometimes with it too to be quite honest.

I'm sorry you feel turned off by some of the forums because of this, but i hope you understand where its all coming from. But i understand where you are coming from aswel because sometimes some radfems really turn me off from the GC for a moment too on occasion.