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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do you think intersex should be under the umbrella in the first place, when it's a health condition rather than a sexuality (if we ignore TQ and A in this scenario)? If they're LGB, they're already included in those categories and therefore don't need the extra letter.

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If you ask intersex people, the vast majority of them do not want to be associated with the LGBTQ+ community by default. Being intersex is nothing like being homosexual, bisexual, or even trans. But because they are such a small group intersex people and intersex advocates get drowned out by people misrepresenting them.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Nope. It is unrelated to LGBT and equating it to a sexuality is a really bad idea, considering there's already the widespread belief that feminine male = gay and masculine female = lesbian. On top of that, in my experience, the gay male community has been EXTREMELY unfriendly to me as an intersex/GNC guy, basically seeing me as subhuman & a porn object because of the way I was born. The lesbian community, which seems to be predominantly radfem, also seems to think that intersex women are "men pretending to be women" are indistinguishable from trans, and see them as a "threat." Neither the T+ nor LGB are ready to touch intersex issues, even if they were in any way related.

Also, I strongly disagree with that last part. I'm homosexual, but I don't identify with "the LGB community." As I've said, for both reasons relating to my intersex condition & many, many others, I neither feel welcome, wanted, nor can I even relate. So I'd ask that you not say anyone is "automatically included", it's just as bad as when people say I am a "LGBTQIA person" by default because I'm homosexual & intersex.

Plus the whole concept of LGB(T) is incredibly Westernized anyway so, there's a good chance I'll just never "get it." But the thing is, that's fine. I don't see why there needs to be "a community" because it makes sexuality sound like a hivemind.

"Drop the I", but also, dismantle the whole thing while we're at it, in my opinion.