It may not be something the majority of the trans movement outright says, but the goal of modern trans activism is to undermine and dismiss the differences between trans and natal men/women; and say that it’s offensive to point those differences out.

In doing that, they’re laying a rock solid foundation for someone to take the leap and go “Well if there are no major differences between trans and natal men, then why wouldn’t a gay guy want to date a trans man for being trans?” And of course the convenient answer is ’discrimination’.

When you combine this with the articles published about how trans people are discriminated against in the dating world; and the people saying they shouldn’t be under any obligation to tell a date that they’re trans, it’s not hard to see how we got here.

I think it’s more accurate to say that trans activists tolerate the concept that there’s nothing wrong with blanket refusing sex with trans people, because they know the backlash they’d face if they didn’t. But it’s not an idea they whole-heartedly support; and it conflicts with their other messages. Either

A) There are only superficial differences between trans and natal men/women and they’re easy to look past

OR

B) There’s nothing wrong with saying you’d never date a trans man/woman because they’re different

These ideas can’t coexist and it’s only a matter of time before one gets abandoned for the sake of the other. Personally I think it’s only a matter of time before it’s put into the same degree of taboo as racial preferences in dating.