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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Agreed. I have a bit of a nuanced take on being closeted based on my own personal experience where I think of “deep closeted” as being aware of my same-sex attraction and being generally aware that I was not attracted to the opposite sex, but unwilling to internalize it and accept it for what it obviously is. It’s active denial more than ignorance or unawareness. And then “closeted” to refer to after having the “come to Jesus” moment of accepting this is what I am but not openly sharing that or being very restrictive about who I share it with including what spaces or groups of people (“semi-closeted”). It’s clear that they never have to think about or do think about the consequences of coming out in various circumstances where we are going to be painfully aware of it.

[–]fuck_reddit 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. This is exactly how I conceive of the various stages of coming out. There's a vast difference between being conscious and in deep denial and being completely unaware. Being completely unaware has very little affect compared to repressing something which requires effort and creates great suffering.