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[–]Gearbeta 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

People's boundaries should always be respected but it's certainly possible to not be attracted to/not want to date a demographic of people and also not insult them for being in that demographic.

[–]BiHorror[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

yes, I completely agree with that. It's just that whole "I'm not x but..." as a starter. It's no different to when people try to pull that shit with racist bs and such, and it didn't help that the people who were calling that out for that bit were TRAs (or tra sympathizers).

[–]Veneficca 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is my main issue as a bi woman. You don't want to date me? Fine. What happens more often though: a lesbian will date me but imply I'm second-class or damaged goods, or she'll refer to bi women as men's sloppy seconds. Thankfully, I see way less of this than I did when I came out as a teenager.

[–]BiHorror[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

imply I'm second-class or damaged goods, or she'll refer to bi women as men's sloppy seconds

Yeah, I've noticed similar things to that also.