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Exactly!! I use food analogies a lot to explain this concept and this one is amazing. Receiving OJ when I'm expecting something chocolatey feels intrusive and upsetting. And I like OJ! They seem to take a rejection in this specific manner from a bisexual as transphobia. That's not what it is. Most people would send their order back if a restaurant got it wrong, even if it's a food you like, why is this any different? It's not about whether you like what you were given, it's about the fact that what you were given isn't what you ordered.

Then come to find out a lot of trans people only date "cis" people because "certain genitals make me dysphoric". Any fucks I would've given dried up right then. What if I'm dysphoric seeing your mastectomy scars? What if I'm dysphoric seeing a bobbing adam's apple when your voice is surgically altered to be higher than mine? Miss me with that shit.