Story time....

In my old town, I was in this “queer” women’s group temporarily. Almost everyone in it was either bi or trans and it was was very “woke”. Aside from the trans women, only one “cis woman” other than me called herself a lesbian. But I didn’t really buy it. She always gave me a #notlikeothergirls vibe, and she would talk about being a lesbian in an attention-seeking way. She would deadass say things like “people don’t expect me to be a lesbian because I’m so pretty, but I am, sorry boys”. She was dating a woman at the time.

Anyway, I didn’t keep in touch with this person, mainly because she was arrogant in general and it was annoying. I was still in the group chat for this group but I never commented.

So this girl’s relationship ended a year ago. (The relationship with a woman remember) She IMMEDIATELY started sleeping with men regularly and changed her identification to bi. She made an announcement about how she only “couldn’t” call herself bi because lesbians are so horribly biphobic that she had no choice. I was just like... what lesbians?? Everyone you hang out with is either bi or trans. They’re all into queer theory. You didn’t do it because you were some victim, you just wanted to.

In response she just got a bunch of people from her friend circle (the bi and trans one) agreeing. Several of the bi girls would regularly talk about how it’s not fair that lesbians make them feel uncomfortable with identifying as lesbians “just because they like men too” because they felt that “lesbian” should just mean “bi but prefers women to men”. They all talk about how awful lesbians are all the time. I’m not in the group chat anymore...

This turned into a long story, sorry!