LifestyleTrying to figure out my sexuality but everywhere else is just steeped in queer theory BS

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[–]Constantine[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is what I'm trying to work out, since I've never actually been physical with anyone. I feel like one crush in particular was real, but it's also telling I think that the boy in question was the one who was least likely to want to take things to the next level (very socially awkward and religious with a purity ring), so I wonder if I liked him because there was no chance of it becoming a real thing. Plus, I also had a thing for his sister. My other crushes have been few and far between and not very intense, but I also don't connect with people easily, so it could be that and not anything to do with my sexuality.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

but it's also telling I think that the boy in question was the one who was least likely to want to take things to the next level (very socially awkward and religious with a purity ring), so I wonder if I liked him because there was no chance of it becoming a real thing

Feeling attracted to "unavailable" partners has nothing do to with your sexuality though. It can be related to your attachment style, insecurities of yours, etc etc. I'm a lesbian and I've noticed over the years a pattern and I usually tend to attract emotionally unavailable women. If you felt attraction towards that guy, you're not a lesbian.

[–]Constantine[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you.