They get an emotional high off of imagining themselves as their perfect self ( “if I was a guy my life would be better, my depression and struggles stem from not being my true self etc.“) and can put off actual inner work and fixing their lives by fantasizing the only thing between them and happiness is transition-much like how dieters fantasize about how perfect life will be at their goal weight-which is why there are so many forums to help guide people post-weight loss through the reality that losing weight didn’t magically make them happy or successful or love themselves.

It’s also why many dieters struggle to maintain weight and will gain without the fantasy they get to build during a weight loss journey. It’s easier to have one single goal and focus on that instead of facing multiple issues in your life. It’s like losing weight and feeling good for a week before it’s your new normal and you realize you are still just you.

I should know I went through it losing weight and while I’m happier being fit I had to accept it didn’t change any other part of life besides my body.

People who aren’t the tiny .6 actual trans will find that out the hard way except with permanent changes and a chemical dependency on a lifetime of steroid and hormone shots they will suffer tenfold from stopping or continuing as opposed to never having experimented to begin with; clits too big and desensitized to orgasm, penises that can’t get hard, the reality that most of them will never “pass” as the gender they want to and the hell that creates- the true Othering they do to themselves when if they addressed their mental health sans surgery they wouldn’t create a whole new trauma to be dealt with...