LesbianLesbian comes out of the closet but r/lgbTTT members think only about trans women.

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[–]8bitgay 36 insightful - 2 fun36 insightful - 1 fun37 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

It would’ve just been nice if it was a couple where one transitioned and they stayed together and it just would have added a whole other level of wholesome to the post.

So, hm, are you supposed to stay with your partner even after he/she comes out as trans? Isn't attraction based on gender identity to them? If the girl was straight and the guy actually transitioned, wouldn't that mean that the girl is invalidating the partner's gender identity?

Staying with your partner after transition makes no sense if you follow their logic of gender.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

No, you see the past, present, and future gender identities of your past, present, and future partners have the magical ability to change your own sexual orientation whether or not you know about it. So the end result is that gay and straight don’t exist, just pansexuality. It’s also possible you don’t even know your own sexual orientation if you have no contact with your ex who, as it turns out, has a lady brain the whole time.

So gay bars are now pansexual bars and everyone is now sexually available to everyone else.

[–]CJLez 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

By their logic the sexualities of both partners changes and neither were aware of their true feelings beforehand. So, in the same way that a transwoman 'changes' from straight man to 'lesbian woman' their wife goes from straight woman to 'lesbian woman.' I think that this is why they talk about fluidity and genital preferences so much because, from their point of view, they have changed their sexualities so it should be easy for us to do the same.

You see it a lot on the r/mypartneristrans subreddit with lesbians being upset that they have to call themselves straight women (in order to not upset their partners) and straight women being upset that they have to call themselves lesbians (in order to not upset their partners) and, rarely, gay men upset that they have to call themselves straight men (in order to not upset their partners.) The feelings and upset of the non-transitioner are almost never taken into consideration in those threads.

[–]8bitgay 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's so weird. They complain about how hard it is for trans to date, how they're being excluded, but dating is hard for everyone. It's hard to find someone who is compatible with you.

And then you see these people who meet others that are actually compatible with them... And instead of appreciating it, they say that these compatible people aren't validating them enough, and start demanding the attention of people who aren't compatible instead.

And why is validating so important anyway? If gender is so fluid, if labels don't matter, if you don't even need to feel dysphoria, then why do you care if your partner calls himself gay instead of straight?