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DiscussionHow did you discover you were homo/bisexual?

submitted 3 years ago by indeepshadowsBi woman from self.LGBDropTheT

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I knew I liked boys, but at 12 I started to feel "weird" about one of my close female friends. I wanted to hold her hand, play in/smell her hair, kiss her. I found myself really seeking her approval because I really wanted her to like me. I remember telling myself "she's your friend, she already likes you" to which I thought, "yeah but not like THAT" and that's when it hit me.

I had a passing experience in high school with a different friend but I kind of suppressed it for the most part. My family was intensely homophobic at the time and I'd resigned myself to taking my bisexuality to the grave.

In college though I couldn't ignore it anymore. There was this friend I kind of always lowkey had a crush on. We kissed once, and for weeks after that I was clamoring for an excuse to do it again. We cyber sexted once. She came over a few months after that and we were so close to having sex but I didn't want to ruin our friendship.

My family, mom in particular is 100% supportive now.

Even with all of that I'm primarily attracted to men. I don't typically crush on female celebrities or female fictional characters for example. So I often feel "too straight" for most LGB spaces, yet "too gay" for my straight friends. But every so often I'll meet a girl who turns my whole world upside down.