This is the question I struggle with. Historically, I bought into the idea of using the pronouns for people who try to pass as a kindness, but it seems like that type of kindness has only led to the craziness we have today. It creates the false perception that everyone really does agree that TWAW, which leads to the arguments that they should be able to take over our identities and spaces. And, if nothing else, it centers the feelings of the trans-identified person above everything else, which reinforces the idea that it is our duty to limit our speech and expression to maintain their comfort instead of them performing their own emotional labor.

I am on the fence. I am still sympathetic to the argument on an individual level, but on the collective level I see it exacerbating gender problems in the long run.