In the LGBDropTheT sub, there are people who think we should accept a man as a woman, or a woman as a man, especially if they pass well enough: https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t8hy
The thread is long, so I'm highlighting a few comments:
It doesn't cost me anything to call a trans man "he", especially since many trans men do pass as males.
we can do as much as to accept them as women and men in everyday life.
I will never ask anyone to bend to their toxic ideas; I just ask to call them men and women, accordingly – and no, I'm not asking you to humor the "tree" insane lunatics or any other nonsense. Doing this much is usually enough to not be seen as a transphobe in the eyes of rational people and it should keep you safe from a ban.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t8pj
We're not talking about some incredibly powerful foreign force that wants to redefine what you understand as your female or male view of the world. We're talking about 0.3% of population who feel like they were born in body of wrong sex and want to live a difficult life of pretending that isn't the case.
I don't demand anything. I merely ask, as I think it's a decent thing to do, in realistic situation when someone actually pass as the other sex. If some attention starved teenage girl says on her bio on Twitter that she's a boy now, but makes no effort to look like one and she cries how the world is transphobic to her, that's delusional and childish. But if someone makes an effort and looks like a woman, to get out of your way and call them a "man" just because you happen to know their biolgocial sex is an asshole move.
silencing people with censorship (something they do) is no way to acheive this, just like misgendering them (something you do) is not.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t8qz
Trans people want to pass as their desired gender.
I don't believe they're lying at all. I think it is possible for someone to be born in body of wrong sex.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t8rw
Prove people can't be born in the wrong sex, please. I can't wait to see your mind penetrating machine.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t8sw
You say we can AT LEAST accept them as men and women, but that itself has caused the current issues we are in?
No, it didn't and you know this well. They have been pusing progressive and homophobic propaganda onto everyone for years, claiming that gender is the deciding factor of sexual orientation. OP of that thread fell to the very romanticized idea of "giving a chance", "being open-minded" and "looking to broad his experiences". He was manipulated into uncomfortable position (and potentially dangerous) and now both him and that trans guy are suffering because of this = a perfect proof that this propaganda should never be allowed to reach young people's mind.
I won't argue with you that it didn't go too far – of course it did. But I can recognize where their right overleaps mine and calling someone their desired pronouns in the internet argument is realistically not that.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t92f
brain-sex is still a hotly debated topic as there is conflicting research on it. until a scientific consensus is reached, believing or not believing that "someone can be born in the wrong sexed body" is simply a matter of personal opinion at this point.
https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7sjh/agb_user_goes_on_a_date_with_a_trans_man_but/t907
Because there is no proof people can be born in the wrong sex, and there is no proof people can not be born in the wrong sex, believing people can or can not be born in the wrong body or sex is just a matter of opinion?
The commenters do not think that accepting a man as a woman or a woman as a man has led to the current situation. They think that gender and sex are separate, gender is created by humans and it is possible to accept a man as a woman or a man as a woman socially without letting men in spaces of women or women in spaces of men. That it is a matter of courtesy and respect to call someone by their preferred pronouns, or consider them the gender they want to be as long as they pass as that gender. And that it would be rude, disrespectful, hateful and transphobic to call a man who passes and identifies as a woman a man, or a woman who passes and identifies as a man a woman.
They also think gender is not problematic, it does not reduce people to sexist roles because humans are realistically bags of meat. By saying gender reduces people to sexist roles we're romanticizing humanity.
So what do you think? How problematic is accepting a man as a woman or a woman as a man if they pass well enough? And what problems does that bring?
Is it just a matter of opinion that people can not be born in the wrong sex or body?
Is there proof that people can not be born in the wrong sex or body?
Is it hateful, rude and disrespectful to call a man who identifies and passes as a woman a man, or a woman who identifies and passes as a man a woman?
Did accepting a man as a woman or a woman as a man have any effect on what we see trans right activists do now? And what were these effects?
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