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[–]Sistersovermisters 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh, no, I completely understand! I am trying to get over apologizing to others when I feel like I've stepped on some toes, but this actually feels great to be prodded to try to think more about what I want to say! I really do appreciate that. Failing and learning is probably one of the best things a person can do, and I'm really open to accepting humility and gaining experience from experienced posters!

Thank you for your kind words, and best wishes to you as well. I'll try to post and gain that confidence!

[–]MarkTwainiac 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The urge to say "I'm sorry" all the time comes from the ways females are socialized from infancy. You can get over it, though it will take vigilance and effort. But it's within your power to pull off. Give yourself time.

BTW, you didn't step on anyone's toes here. Not even close. You simply made a point that seemed vague and was unsubstantiated; as a result others didn't understand and wanted you to clarify what you meant. No big deal.

Also, even if you had stepped on someone's toes - so what! Stepping on someone's toes is not like running somebody over in car, or dropping a safe or ton of bricks on them from several stories up like happens in cartoons.

Making unclear, unsubstantiated points on the internet is not a crime. Billions of people do it every day. Be kind to yourself.