if im honest, my naivety probably comes from the fact that i’ve never been in actual physical lesbian spaces (since im a minor). ofc, i agree with the idea that it would be much more frightening to see a man walk into a lesbian bar than a woman walk into a gay bar, but i think that us women need to throw gay men a little sympathy. gay women need to deal with aggressive (if somewhat sparse) males, and gay men need to deal with hordes of rude (but weaker) females. I also think that tifs have much more strength in numbers online, which is where tifs are the most bold and invasive towards gay men.