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[–]Shesstealthy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anal isn't normal everyday sex and people need reminding of that. Men seem bent on ignoring the need for clear enthusiastic consent for anything and that needs to stop. What also needs to stop is the normalisation of kink in hookups. I had a pretty opportunistic porn-mad casual lover and when I told him I had not had anal (in response to his query) he said quite clearly that he wouldn't be a good person to do it with for the first time - and I appreciate that he understood that it's a big deal, it's emotional. Instead of women's magazines teaching us how to endure anal men's magazines should be reinforcing that this is not generally that pleasurable for us, that it's a big deal, that consent is mandatory, and that if they're not prepared to take a dick or a dildo up their own ass they shouldn't even ask.