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[–][deleted] 29 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I'm so incredibly sorry this has happened to you. You are NOT dirty and it Is NOT your fault. Please do not blame yourself!! He completely disregarded your feelings and boundaries. If you did not want it, if you did not consent to what he did, then it is rape. I don't know what kind of advice I should offer you as I do not know what do in this situation, but know that I, and all of us here, are here to support you!

[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Remember it is completely up to you if you want to report this to the police. I have never used Tinder, but I heard you can also report users on there.

You did NOT do this to yourself. You had no way of knowing he would do this to you. You are not responsible for what HE did to YOU. Please do not blame yourself!!

[–]DevianttKitten[S] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I won't be reporting it because of some mildly related cannabis stuff, which is still very illegal to possess here. The last thing I need is for police to be involved. It's a small town anyway, they don't even get off their ass for intervention order breaches, I doubt they'd do anything about a sexual assault. They're rarely even reachable because they're never at the station.

I'll see if I can report him on tinder, but I might've unmatched him after I got his phone number anyway.

[–]yishengqingwa666 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'd love to report him, if I knew his profile.

[–]catawampus 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It is totally up to you whether you want to report it to the police, you are completely valid making the choice best for you. No matter what, he was completely in the wrong and you should never feel like it was your fault or feel ashamed for what happened.

I say this not to guilt you, but I would still gently suggest reporting him to the police. Even if he isn’t convicted in this case, having a prior history with the police would make it easier to convict him in the future if he violates another woman and she reports it.