It was just along the lines of... I grew up on a farm and we grew and butchered our own food. I am no stranger to the practical realities of putting meat on the table. Which can sound pretty graphic to people who never had that experience. So when people trot out that "I am a woman therefore everything I do is performed in a womanly way" I think... wow, when i cut the head off that baby lamb, and when I changed the tractor tire, and mucked out the chicken coop, and did all those other chores which must be done when you live on a farm, I did them in the exact same way that my DAD taught me.

who knew he was performing femininity when he killed and dressed all those deer! :P All kidding aside, you already know that killing and gutting deer is not what is meant by "performing femininity". Femininity is just an idea in a man's head when he thinks about the submissive qualities he prefers to see in women.

And then to make matters worse, women come along and normalize that word, to ourselves and each other, as if it is ever a neutral act to contribute to our own oppression. It's not a neutral word. It's a sexist word, and it's purpose is to normalize the male gaze. (Same thing for "masculinity". It's just an idea in a man's head regarding acceptable male behavior.)

Anyhoo, your other post on the subject received more positive responses and I had noticed (at least when I first read it) that really nobody had twigged the problems with your question. To have no one more experienced gently explain the problems with that post, was disheartening. This one, you're still conflating bio sex with [an incorrect definition of gender] but at least some people are explaining the problems.

Extremely sorry if my comment comes across as patronizing!! Discussions surrounding bio sex/gender/transgenderism can get confusing very quickly, and entire meanings can be not just altered but completely lost and contradictory if someone isn't looking specifically for those traps. We've all been there, is what i'm trying to say.