“man up” is just as bad as telling a women to “go back to the kitchen”

From my personal experience, those "man up" are always very sexist towards women. And very often it has meaning or wording "do not be a woman" or "don't act like little girl" or "why you so weak, are you a woman?". And if people know that I am gay, then gayness is always compared to "being a woman", or asking questions like "if you are gay, why no make-up?".

So those things are not comparable at all. It is almost like if everyone is speaking loud, but you are speaking quietly, and then people saying to you "hey, speak louder, don't be like people without tongue", and then you saying to them "don't opress me". While people without tongue can't even speak back and their opinion is never asked. It is just different levels. (With this example I am not saying here that women are disabled or worse in compare to men, just comparing ability to voice opinions in society, less weak voice is still privilege over no voice at all)

And same thing is happening with domestic abuse problems, and it is used by TRA very often. "Women sometimes domestic abusing their husbands", forgetting that it is happening once per every 10 thousand times the opposite is happening.